It's hard to believe how fast time passes. In eight months, I'll be getting married, and instead of focusing solely on wedding preparations, I find myself mentally preparing for the marriage itself. A wedding is a once-in-a-lifetime event, and I want it to be beautiful—who wouldn't? But I truly believe that marriage is about so much more than just the wedding day.
Since I was young, I never considered getting married early. I’ve always understood that raising a family is no easy feat. It takes more than just financial stability; both parents need to be mentally prepared for the responsibility. From an early age, I realized that being parents means guiding our children, not just scolding them when they make mistakes. I understand that parenthood comes with the full responsibility of children's mental and physical well-being. I want to provide the best possible environment for raising my children, and to do that, I need to be mature enough to guide them. I don't want my children to suffer because of my immaturity or ego.
As we age, we learn more about ourselves, and that applies to me too. I’ve always felt comfortable in the kitchen and have a passion for organizing. Preparing for marriage also means I need to be able to cook for my family, not out of a sense of Asian tradition, but because I understand that the food they eat will shape their health in the future. I can already tell that I will be very strict when it comes to the food that my family consumes. To my future husband and kids, I am sorry for limiting junk food and sugary foods to your daily diet.
A few of my friends have mentioned that I have the qualities of a good wife, and I truly hope that's the case. With that being said, I’m also aware of my own shortcomings. There are times when I am so hard on myself and it ends up affecting my partner. I’m not great at social skills (can't blame my introverted self) and I know I need to improve my financial management. While I’m not an excessive spender, I still haven't quite figured out how to manage my money effectively.
For those of you who are getting married this or next year, I hope you make the most out of this precious moment. Learn about yourself and what to improve so you can be a better person, not only for your partner but also for your future children.